Energy Exchange

During this time there is nothing more important that we can do than to learn to take responsibility for our own energy. I truly believe that we have been pulled from the enmeshment of daily energy exchange in order to take the opportunity to look more deeply at the power of our energy and how we are using it.

Every output of energy causes a ripple effect and it is now that we are being called to take great care in the ripples we are creating.

Every output of fear, creates a ripple of fear that will continue to return to you again and again.

Every output of Love, creates a ripple of Love that will continue to return to you again and again.

It is important to begin to allow yourself to become more aware of:

*The energy you are creating (this happens in the moment based on your emotional reactions to what is unfolding both internally and externally).

*The energy that you are holding (this could be blocks or overflow) and how you are focusing it.

*The energy you are exchanging (being mindful of both what is being given and what you are allowing yourself to receive)

Our noticing practices are very handy here.

Remember Judgement is not helpful, but don’t judge your judgment either just call it what it is and listen to what it has to say. Talk to it gently and help it find its way back to flow.

When noticing gets to be too much focus on something that feels better and trust that you will come back to it when you are in the right space.

Reach for what feels better and remember that we are always taking small steps, rather than huge leaps. And if you by chance are able to make a huge leap, celebrate it but don’t convince yourself that it should now be the norm.

Let go of expectations, they only lead to perpetual fear and disappointment. Instead set the intention of what you would like to see or create and allow yourself to be present as it unfolds. When practicing this it is helpful to notice how easily expectations creep in even when we are sure we don’t have any and to be mindful of our reactions when they are not met. Through this we will program the mind to understand that expectations lead to pain and the brain will learn to stop creating them.

Notice how simple semantics may be causing resistance in you. Often times I am seeing that we are saying the same thing but in a different way and because of the way we are interpreting the words we are feeling unnecessary resistance to a message we completely agree with. During this time it is especially important for us to listen completely before allowing ourselves to create an emotional response. This applies both when listening internally and externally.

Active listening is a priceless skill. I encourage you to practice every chance you get. This means: Focusing on the other person completely, not analyzing their words but simply absorbing them. Letting go of the need to respond and instead simply being present with them and holding the space needed for them to feel heard and understood. The magic in this is that the better of a listener you become the more heard you feel!!

Notice how you feel before, during and after energy exchanges with others and then allow yourself to explore what that means.

If the other person feels great but you are depleted or vice versa, there is an imbalance in exchange. After you notice the imbalance you get to decide what to do about it by noticing how you feel about it. You may find that there is a simple lack of boundaries or communication is the problem and easily find balance. You may also find that it is not possible at this to have an even exchange with a particular person, which is actually often the case. It then becomes your responsibility to decide how you feel about that and what you are willing to do. Regardless of what you find it is critical that you learn to let go of the need for the other person to take responsibility and instead focus on your responsibility and so that you can easily make the choices that are right for you (and truthfully the other person as well even if they aren’t able to acknowledge it yet).

Ideal energy exchange happens when we are able to give from our overflow, this is the extra energy that we create by meeting our needs and following our inner guidance. When we are able to meet our needs we easily create overflow or extra to share. This is what most of us having been desperately searching for, a place where we can freely give to others without suffering because of it. Interestingly, when we are able to exchange energy from this place with those who once depleted us they often begin to create more of their own energy and eventually their own overflow. Just another example of why our most important work always begins with self. The greatest way to help others is always to help yourself first. Our example is our most powerful ally I feel I have barely skimmed the surface of this topic, but am hopeful to have given you enough to get you started. This is a game of discovery and exploration. It can be fun or it can be maddening it all depends on how we choose to perceive it.

May You Be the Blessing You Came to Be,

Crystal*