Love Yourself Instead of Trying to Figure Out Why You Don’t…

Being the programmed task oriented humans that we are, so often when we start out on our path of self-love and discovery we turn it into just another task and spend a whole lot of time feeling frustrated and stuck.

Our path to this place of alignment is more about how we feel and less about how we get there. If you like to struggle and find it rewarding to prove that you can overcome struggles, then this is not for you. If you are in a place where you are ready to learn from a place of flow rather than struggle then this is for you. There is absolutely nothing wrong with either path, as with all things, it is simply a matter of personal choice.

When we choose to Love ourselves, we move from the past (constantly figuring out what is keeping us stuck) and into the present, where we have the power to create a Loving feeling for ourselves (something new and different).

To allow this shift in our consciousness we stop asking questions like, “why am I like this?” and start asking questions like, “what do I need when I feel this way and why am I asking for it in a way that is painful?”.

We stop expecting others to fulfill our needs and instead become clear on what our needs are and how they can be met without depleting others. (This doesn’t mean that we can’t ask for help, this means we don’t seek help from places of lack or depletion, i.e. we don’t go to someone who has less than us and ask for help.)

We start listening to ourselves and eventually begin to trust ourselves to listen. Often we have become dependent on others because we don’t know what we need or we don’t know how to create what we need. When we listen, we learn what we need. As we build a loving relationship with ourselves, we also create the confidence that we need to begin creating energy for ourselves in ways we never imagined.

We start figuring out what we like and give ourselves permission to enjoy life.

We start allowing ourselves to laugh.

We start allowing ourselves to be authentic without fear of judgement.

We start doing what makes us happy and we don’t feel guilty for it or make excuses not to.

We let go of the need to defend ourselves or to judge the paths of others.

We let go of the need to give in order to receive and learn that we give because we have and receive because we allow.

There is nothing to earn or deserve, do what feels right to you and you will never be wrong. (Don’t lose yourself in what it would look like if someone selfish did this, you are not selfish. Loving yourself actually makes you less selfish because from this place you create more than enough and are able to share this energy without attachment. When you live from Love you give and receive in Love)

As we move into this new way of Being, during our present moment practice and our old stuff will come up. Instead of judging it or trying to wish it away, remember to be curious about it, listen lovingly to the part of yourself that is asking to be heard and respond in a Loving way.

Meet yourself the way you would meet a child, with patience and understanding. Don’t disregard your emotions even if they are based on an old perspective. Instead, allow yourself to acknowledge this is a block that was created in the past and it is okay to process the unspent emotions and to help yourself understand and accept that things are different now and that it is safe to move forward.

You may feel better immediately, and you may revisit it many times, either way it doesn’t matter, what matters is your reaction. If you feel terrible each time you notice that it is still there you will continue to avoid it and most likely add new negative energy to it, perpetuating the cycle. Instead, practice seeing it with Love and Acceptance and notice what happens.

Here are some ideas of ways to Practice Loving Yourself:

*Spend time each day feeding your mind, body and spirit in ways that bring you joy and balance.

*Create a Gratitude Practice

*Celebrate Your Victories

*Take Pleasure in the Simple Things.

*Create Time and Space for Yourself

*Ask for what you need and have good boundaries

*Do what you love and what makes you happy as often as possible!!

Learning to Love ourselves can often bring up a lot of feelings of uncertainty and even guilt. If you find yourself struggling to trust your process or perspective Reiki, Personal Guidance, Private Classes and Angel Card Readings are all great tools to support you. We have some great Social Distancing Specials Available.

To learn more visit www.crystalclarity5.wixsite.com/awakening or call or text 540-320-4635. I would be honored to support you.

May You Love Yourself the Way You Deserve to Be Loved.

Fully and Completely.

Be Blessed,

Crystal*